Thursday, November 20, 2014

Ask Primpy: New Q&A Series!

 We are launching a new series on the blog called "Ask Primpy", where we answer your most burning wedding planning questions.  I'm kicking this series off with the most popular question I hear from engaged couples which is..."How do we cut down on wedding costs?"

By far, the most efficient way to save money on your wedding is to cut down your guest list.  The cost per guest you incur usually includes catering, rentals and even the number of centerpieces needed (most couples are surprised by this but think about it--more guests + more seating = more centerpieces).  Because the number of guests directly impacts all of these things and more, this is where you'll see the biggest cost savings when planning your wedding.  

Cutting the guest list can be done in a number of ways, but there are certain things to consider before deciding if sweet Aunt Josie will make the cut or not. First, who is paying for the wedding?  If you and your spouse-to-be are responsible for most or all of the budget, then you pretty much have free reign on determining who will be invited or not.  If either of your parents are paying for the wedding, this is where things get much more complicated.  As the hosts, your parents can pretty much dictate the guest list.  So unless they have explicitly told you that they are leaving the list in your hands, avoid going bridezilla on them if they decide to invite their childhood friends, college friends and the guy at Starbucks who makes their coffee "just the way they like it".  After all, they are footing the bill!

Now if you are in charge of the guestlist, cutting the number of invited guests can be done in a number of ways.  Here are my top tips on saving big bucks for your wedding!

Have your ceremony and reception at the same location.  This can potentially save you a ton of money and stress.  You'll be saving big on transportation costs and having to pay for separate ceremony and reception rental fees.  And having all of your events at one location is less stressful overall since all of your vendors only need to show up to one location.  

Make it an Adult-Only event (aka leave the kids at home).  If this is the route you decide to go, it's fine if the only children invited are ones that are in the bridal party. 

No Unknown Plus Ones.  What this means is that instead of giving guests free reign on the RSVP to invite "Guest", make sure you actually know who "Guest" is and that person is invited by name. 

Consider having a destination wedding.  If you are really keen on getting your guestlist down, but know it'll cause lots of drama if you have a local wedding and don't invite certain local family and friends, my favorite solution is this...have a destination wedding!  For the most part, your key guests will make an effort to travel where ever your wedding will be and you won't offend guests (if you invite them and they can't make it, that's not your fault!).  Just note: if your destination is far enough to require getting on a plane, obviously this won't work if any of your VIP's have a flying phobia, so chose your location wisely.

Have a wedding planning question that is stressing you out?  Send an email to and we'll answer it on the blog!  And if you find yourself in need of a wedding pro, check out the various wedding planning services we offer at This Modern Love Events.  We'd love to help you plan a stress-free wedding day!

Friday, November 14, 2014

NYC Bridal Fashion Week 2014

Last month was that time of the year again--Bridal Fashion Week in NYC!  I was down there with the Sally Conant Ph.D., the Executive Director of the Association of Wedding Gown Specialists, where we spent the weekend running two booths--one over at Pier 94 for the International Bridal Fashion Week show and the Couture Show hosted by TheKnot at the Metropolitan Pavilion.  We saw some GORGEOUS wedding dresses from various designers' 2015 Spring collection and we had the honor of getting an invite to the biggest wedding industry bash of the year, TheKnot Gala (where I got to meet the famous Randy Fenoli from Say Yes to the Dress!)

At Pier 94, we saw gorgeous wedding gowns from both well-known and up & coming designers.

We also met with a fabulous new designer, Kelsey Ganna, from New Zealand.  Her line, The Flower Bride totally nails the boho/chic vintage bridal look.  We were swooning!

Over at TheKnot's Couture Show, we saw some fab gowns and got to chat with some of our favorite designers, including LA-based designer Madeleine Fig.  TheKnot had the most adorable set-up for the welcome lounge at their show!

After 3 days of working both markets, I got to eat, drink and dance the night away at TheKnot's annual wedding industry Gala at the New York Public Library.  There were over 1,000 attendees and I also got the chance to mingle with wedding industry elites such as Carley Roney (TheKnot's co-founder), Randy Fenoli (Kleinfeld Fashion Director and star of Say Yes to the Dress) and the tremendously talented Jannina Figueroa, owner and designer of Madeleine Fig.

Photographer Credit: Ready Luck Photography
 My awesome husband came with me and was the perfect arm candy--we had a BLAST :)

Entertainment was provided by Hank Lane Music who kept everyone dancing all night long with the incredible live band!

We loved every minute of it and can't wait to see what TheKnot Gala has in store for 2015 :)  Check out more amazing photos from TheKnot Gala here!